Devotion as Salvation.

Inhale, and Mistress approaches you. Hold the inhalation, and Mistress remains with you. Exhale, and you approach Mistress. Hold the exhalation, and surrender to Mistress.

The invitation to devote your actions and your yoga practice to your Mistress is a powerful invocation and one that must not be taken lightly. Holding your Mistress in mind with every breath, every intention and every movement helps to keep you grounded through out your practice and throughout your life. When you are able to surrender and acknowledge the world outside of yourself and your place within it (at my feet), you are able to move through life with greater ease.

The core tenants of most religions focus on how to live life well, often through a path of devotion. This too is a core principle of Dasya Yoga. Devotion through worship has infinite potential. A Dasya slave works one-on-one with a devotional yoga guide to devote the fruits of their labor to their personal Goddess incarnate.

The term ‘Yoga’ means ‘to yoke’. The Dasya Yoga practice helps to yoke the wandering mind to the often times numb body. This allows for the potential for a physical and emotional awakening. Through physical touch, devotional asanas and mudras, the Dasya practice works to yoke the slaves actions to the Mistress’ pleasure. Each breath in reverence to Mistress. Each breath in gratitude to Mistress. It is through this sacred act of devotion that your purpose is found.

Ask yourself, what do you hope to achieve by serving your Mistress? How can you live a life in service to your Mistress? How can you cultivate thanks and gratitude? Create time and space to acknowledge and give thanks for your sacred purpose.

Fear, Self-Actualization and Contacting ProDommes.

Contacting a Professional Dominatrix can be scary. There are many reasons for this, but there are two fears that typically resonate on a deep emotional level that underly the rest.

You may have a core belief that you don’t deserve to get what you want. That the world simply won’t allow you to fulfill your desires. You believe you’re the type of person who can’t have what they desire and will generate obstacles that keep from achieving it. When this deep-rooted fear is confronted, the result can be paralysis and inaction. From there, your brain may generate surface-level excuses to prevent you from fulfilling your desires. Inaction is a passive route and will never lead to satisfaction. Action is more difficult than inaction. Be bold. Confront your desires. Submit.

Accompanying any need is the fear that one will not be able to maintain or possess that which they desire. This fear is what holds us back from reaching our potential and from self-actualization. One of the biggest fears when approaching a Prodomme is one that isn’t often talked about. It is the fear that you might actually get what you want. You have to confront your desires and be able to articulate them. This calls into the conscious that which can be lost or denied. The prospect of having your deepest desires met can bring out strong resistance if it conflicts with your pre-determined identity of ‘not worthy.’

For a masochist, getting what you want is the ultimate fear. A fear that is often accompanied by guilt and shame. This is the deepest form of edge play. Confronting the fear that you are worthy. The fear that you deserve to get what you want. The fear that you might just get it… scared, aren’t you?

All of this is tied up with how you contact a Prodomme. All of this is tied up with why I require deposits. Until you are willing to secure my time, you are not ready for the work to begin. Once you do your research and decide to contact the Prodomme that you think is the best fit for you, submit to the process. Follow her direction. Do not expect her to coddle you through the process or persuade you to see her. That is what her website, social media and other content are for. Make a decision. Stick to it. The potential for growth is limitless.

 

Not All Destruction is Without Growth.

Pain has the potential to be a beautiful and transformative thing.

Our aversion to staying present through pain robs us of our potential for growth. Instead of experiencing our pain, we are encouraged to detach, remove and medicate our pain before spending time to consider the best course of action. We treat the pain before determining what it is that our body and our mind truly need.

Pain and suffering are not separate entities. It is often when we allow our breath to get away from us that pain becomes suffering. And it is when there is a lack of intention, consent and control that suffering can be traumatic. While we cannot always be in complete control of painful experiences, creating a safe space to explore pain, suffering and trauma with a skilled practitioner can foster a powerful catharsis.

A muscle cannot grow without exercise. Working out a muscle tears it apart, allowing it to grow back stronger than before.

A trusted Domina plays with your emotions, your fear response, your hormones and brain chemicals. She interweaves fear, acceptance and resolution and allows you to have a new perspective and experience when you encounter pain off of the yoga mat or outside of the dungeon. Learning to breathe through pain, offer the fruits of your labor and your pain to another and knowing and accepting your purpose allows you to walk through life with stronger sense of meaning and personal fortitude.

Suffering is also not without its merit. Offering and devoting your suffering to a trained and skilled Domina can be a transcendent experience.

In The Beginning Was Self.

My first weekend of yoga teacher training, I think it was fair to say that I spent equal parts of my time training in the yoga studio and in independent study (aka masturbating vigorously to yoga related pornography). A particular favorite of mine was of Daisy Marie and Laly’s “Hot Private Yoga Session.” The dynamic between the two actresses ignited my interest in the overlap of sexuality, BDSM and yoga.

Throughout my instruction in yoga, I found countless overlaps with my earlier training as a Dominatrix. For example, I had been incorporating breath work, yoga’s pranayama, as a way to guide slaves through pain. Certain slave postures, or asanas, helped slaves cultivate a devotional and submissive demeanor in their body. At the beginning of each session, I give each slave a mantra to help them focus their attention on their individual needs to remain present and able to serve. I frequently use these tools to help bring slaves into an altered state of consciousness (sub-space), especially when slaves can’t be physically marked or do not identify as physical masochists.

Through my work caring for slaves and masochists and my work as a more traditional yoga teacher, I realized that traditional approaches were leaving a gross amount of personal exploration untapped. Masochists who aren’t able to cultivate self care alone are often left out of healing practices. My practice offers care to masochists and submissives who aren’t fulfilled in a one-off fetish session by creating the space to explore submission as a path to self care and personal growth.

My yoga teacher was caring, devoted and strict. At times, I had to remind myself to call her by her name, and not, “Mistress.” With a few simples gestures and cues, she could bring a class full of students to their knees (in child’s pose, naturally). The class automatically fell silent when she looked as if she might have something to say.

Practicing yoga, much like submitting to a skilled Dominatrix, can be remarkably therapeutic and cathartic. The overlap between sadism, masochism, sensuality and yoga is undeniable. Learning about the meditations, asanas (postures), and mudras (hand postures) of submission and devotion were uncannily similar to what I learned while training to be a Dominatrix.

After I completed my yoga teacher training, I began to become more aware of how I was incorporating yoga into my BDSM session. It is a common adage that the practice of yoga should be taken off of the mat. In my experience, the practice of yoga can extend far off the mat and into the bedroom—and even into the dungeon. By helping slaves and submissives cultivate a devotional yoga practice in service to me, I am able to help them reach a more centered and grounded place to serve themselves.

Through the incorporation of yoga into my slave training, I am able to impart the importance of both physical and mental well-being to my submissives. My practice encourages my slaves to be comfortable in their bodies and comfortable treating their bodies well—something that masochists especially struggle with.

In Ayuerveyda, your constitution (dosha) is determined by a series of qualities that you possess. Good mental and physical health are thought to come into alignment when your doshas are balanced. For example, someone who is naturally pita (fiery and type A) might benefit more from a slower and more mindful practice that will balance this, such as a yin yoga practice.

In my experience as a Dominatrix, I have also found this balance to be necessary. I often find that what a slave wants isn’t always what they need, and what they need isn’t always what they want. Progress, fighting demons, and seeking balance is difficult, particularly for a masochist who may have a strong aversion to balancing their doshas.

For example, I have a slave who after numerous sessions confessed to me that he sought out a Dominatrix to play out a childhood experience of, ‘not feeling loved’. I found his comment interesting because our work together had been fruitful and in no way devoid of love. He could easily have found a ‘cruel and unloving’ dominatrix elsewhere. He was kneeling at my feet when I asked him if in that moment he felt loved. He responded with a simple, “yes”. Then I asked him if, what he needed was to play out, ‘not feeling loved’ why he continued to see me. He looked up at me through tear clouded eyes and said “thank you, Mistress.”

Through an emotional exchange with my slaves, I am able to help guide them to a practice that provides them with more balance and stability rather than sticking to paths that are easy and comfortable. Westernized yoga often encourages a better, faster, stronger mentality, in a way that often alienates people from their body as they see their practice as more of a competition.

Dasya (devotional and servitude) yoga allows me to take a hands on approach to my slave’s’ physical and mental health while providing an experience where they are touched both physically and mentally in a way that isn’t often provided in modern society. In this manner, my slaves are able to explore their submission from a perhaps unfamiliar modality and I am able to provide a practice that is mutually beneficial.